‘only sluts wear blue nailpolish’ + other lies people told me when I was a teenager
She took me aside and gave me a sad, patronizing look before saying “No offense but, I just thought you should know that only sluts wear blue nailpolish.”
I was 13.
Everything about that statement was a vicious lie, including the mythos of what a slut was, who was one and why. In this case, I noticed that the other girls (besides me) wearing blue nailpolish were the rough girls, the ones who smoked in the bathroom, the goth girls, the poorer girls from the trailer park part of town. The girl letting me in on the secret, giving me condescending, back-door “friendly” advice was a prissy, preppy girl who lived in a brand new development. I learned pretty quickly that this wasn’t about nailpolish.
I still wear blue nailpolish and I think about that every time. That was an easy-to-spot line of bullshit.
Some other lies were not so simple to uncover:
- these years will be the happiest of your life
- you need to apply to some safety schools
- if you don’t go to graduation or your senior prom you will regret it for the rest of your life
- marijuana is a gateway drug
- you aren’t depressed, you are just a teenager
- learning a trade is for people who can’t get into college
- no one will ever want you/love you if you look like that
- there are “good kids” and “bad kids”
- your transcript will matter forever
- you need to make decisions about what you want to major in when you are 18 – you just should KNOW what you want (when it’s about career)
- you are too young to possibly know what you want, what you are, what you like, what love is… see also: you are just experimenting, it’s a phase (when it’s about relationships and sexuality)
- you are too sensitive
- you are too angry
- only other girls understand
- other girls are your competition
- someday you will get along with your parents
- anything following or preceding “when I was your age …” that was meant to compare and put down some aspect of things I did, said, cared about, choose or loved.
- god is real.