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Things I’m Afraid To Tell You — Wave No. 2 — Tue, 15 May 2012 13:37:46 +0000

Comment on Things I’m afraid to tell you. by bonnie

bonnie — Mon, 14 May 2012 16:26:47 +0000

Ahh, yes. Body image issues is something that is certainly not exclusive to one shape or size. I think that’s something that I hope improves in our culture overall, but in the meantime it’s helpful to know how many of us can relate and are just trying to do our best to be happy and live good lives that aren’t focused on shame/pain/obsessing.

Comment on Things I’m afraid to tell you. by bonnie

bonnie — Mon, 14 May 2012 16:23:48 +0000

<3 Thank you for this. And you know I feel the same way. I think we are both in a big "evolving" stage in our lives, it will be interesting to see what develops over the next couple years and where we both end up.

Comment on Things I’m afraid to tell you. by bonnie

bonnie — Mon, 14 May 2012 16:21:24 +0000

Jill – Thanks for leaving a comment! I love the amount of people telling me and other bloggers that reading this blog challenge is helping everyone not feel so alone. It’s such a positive thing to be able to share fears and see how often others can empathize and relate!

Comment on Things I’m afraid to tell you. by bonnie

bonnie — Mon, 14 May 2012 16:19:13 +0000

Hi Amy,

Thank you for your comment. I’m still trying to find my way back to being comfortable sharing my work with people, whether it’s poetry on stage or something else – I’m trying to be hopeful that I will get there again. I hope you will too!

-Bonnie

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Things I’m Afraid To Tell You: Wave Two | Snapshots & Secrets — Mon, 14 May 2012 16:09:56 +0000

Comment on Things I’m afraid to tell you. by Brandi

Brandi — Mon, 14 May 2012 01:31:44 +0000

I remember the poetry you wrote. It was so good. You have such a talent for it. I think you should do it again, if you still want to, that is. But you shouldn’t let what in your head about your appearance hold you back. And I will admit that I’m totally saying that but that my perception of how I look holds me back too. I struggle with it every single day. In some ways, I am disgusted by myself, by my weakness, by the pain that I allowed to overtake me enough to put on the extra weight I have on me. One of the reasons I’m not dating right now is because I really want to work through this, I want to learn how to love my body because I don’t think I’ll ever be in a truly healthy relationship if I don’t learn how to do that. I’ve been with guys — and stayed with them — because I thought I wouldn’t be lucky enough to find someone who wanted to be with me again.
And I used to be angry too. I’ve learned to combat that as much as I can with hope and a determination to be part of the solution to the problems that are out there. But right now, I kinda feel like I’m failing because by the time I get home for work, all I have time for is caring for myself and working on the projects that I know I need to work on to get to where I want to be.

I’ve rambled. Bonnie, I think you’re a beautiful, amazing, generous woman. I’m so glad we’ve kept in touch all these years, and I don’t think you should let anything hold you back from doing the things you want to do. We both have obstacles we need to overcome but we can do it. I believe in both of us.

Comment on Things I’m afraid to tell you. by Amanda

Amanda — Sat, 12 May 2012 07:08:21 +0000

And no that’s not all I got from your post, but I do relate to it.

Comment on Things I’m afraid to tell you. by Amanda

Amanda — Sat, 12 May 2012 07:07:14 +0000

When I get mad about being chubby, I just tell myself that lots of skinny people don’t like how they look either. Nobody really likes how they look, everyone wants to look like someone else. But on most days I’m just going to be OK with eating good food and on days when I’m mad at myself for not being able to wear the clothes I want to, I eat better on those days. I’m hoping it’ll even out at some point but I’d rather expend energy being fat and happy than fat and sad.

Comment on Things I’m afraid to tell you. by Jill

Jill — Mon, 07 May 2012 00:27:40 +0000

I totally love that you said these things…thanks for sharing, I don’t feel so alone!
I want to talk more about style, clothing, but it’s complicated being a fat woman and having a lot of mixed feelings, difficult times and frustration with my style, my body and the way that intersects with pretty much the entire world.

- I am angry often. I am full of rage often and also heartbroken when I think too much about specific cases of injustice, cruelty, torture and pain due to oppression, waste or apathy and neglect – things mostly I can do nothing about. I know everyone does this sometimes, but I easily get … obsessive and irrational. I have to disconnect from reading news too often or it jeopardizes me being able to function in the “normal” faculties of my life and schedule. Sometimes I don’t feel that it’s irrational and wonder if the disconnect is actually making me crazy.